Being brought up by a single mother in a female dominated household, it was only natural that the tools of traditional gentlemen’s etiquette were introduced to myself at a very young age. Through the years I have exercised said etiquette and have found many of classic traditions to be a bit dated, which begs the question; how do today’s lads conduct themselves in modern day fashion? Keeping in mind that presentation is tailored to each unique individual, I casually discussed amongst co-workers & friends of all sex, ages, and backgrounds to assert a current take on the matter. Thus, I have compiled a list of modern day manners that I have found to be enhancing in everyday exchange - the Contemporary Gentlemen’s Guide to Etiquette if you will!
-A man should always offer to open the door for a lady or his guest, allowing him/her to always be the first to enter.
-While in the company of a lady, a true gentleman should always offer to walk on the side closer to the street.
-A gentleman who carries himself with great posture while being courteous and aware of others is sure to be remembered.
-While in conversation directing full attention, and eye contact is key to any successful exchange.
-Lending one’s hand to put on a coat or open a car door is considered classic and while to some it may seem out dated, the simple gesture itself is sure to be appreciated.
-A man who can speak as calmly as he can sternly is one whom is aware of when and how to use his inside voice rather than outside.
-Language is a representation of one’s character whereas foul language can cheapen one’s presence.
-A gentlemen will always and without question give up his seat to a child, lady, expecting mother, or elderly person of any sex.
-To boast or discuss of money is usually unnecessary, try to avoid the topic whenever possible.
-Last but not least, treat others as you would have them treat you.
Having that said, the elegance of every man is a reflection of who he is and no list can unveil that. I pride myself in exercising what I deem to be.